Optimize react-query dependencies (#144206)

* Update react-query to ^4.12.0

* cleanup

* bump

* WIP

* WIP

* es-query

* revert react-use

Co-authored-by: renovate[bot] <29139614+renovate[bot]@users.noreply.github.com>

packages/kbn-ui-shared-deps-npm/BUILD.bazel

@@ -43,6 +43,8 @@ RUNTIME_DEPS = [
   "@npm//@elastic/numeral",
   "@npm//@emotion/cache",
   "@npm//@emotion/react",
+  "@npm//@tanstack/react-query",
+  "@npm//@tanstack/react-query-devtools",
   "@npm//babel-loader",
   "@npm//core-js",
   "@npm//css-loader",

packages/kbn-ui-shared-deps-npm/webpack.config.js

@@ -82,6 +82,8 @@ module.exports = (_, argv) => {
         '@elastic/eui/dist/eui_theme_dark.json',
         '@elastic/numeral',
         '@emotion/react',
+        '@tanstack/react-query',
+        '@tanstack/react-query-devtools',
         'classnames',
         'fflate',
         'history',